In many ways we are alike. In just as many we are opposite. I wonder about couples who are all alike or all opposite. Is it easier to be all alike? To be all opposite? Being balanced in both has it's perks.
It's harder to lose perspective of things.
It's easy to have strong alliances.
It's hard to have days that string together which feel like a battle of wills.
It's easy to forget where the opposite and alike parts fall which create surprises (mostly good ones).
It's hard to not let it get to me.
It's been one of those opposite weeks. A "marriage is hard week". Not impossible or falling apart. Just hard. We're both hyper aware of the opposite parts this week and it's easy to be snide. Even easier to be irriated. Even easier yet to say things on the fly out of irritation.
Makes it harder to be happy.
It's weeks like these were I need to stay in my head. Persevere. Continuing being optimistic even if it's a bit exhausting. Over talking things is not helpful. A few hours of being alone is.
I could honestly use a couple of days.
But I'll take the hours I'm given to just be silent and locked away in my head or even better a good book or movie.
A dose of solitarity does us both good after a week like this.
I'm sorry that you're having a rough week. I really appreciate a realistic post like this. I'm not married but have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I can understand how you're feeling, we also have had a pretty rough week or two. My boyfriend and I are so alike and so different at the same time. It does work out wonderfully, most of the time. We communicate very differently and we're both so strong willed that it can make it hard or a longer process if we're having an issue. Sorry for venting on your comments, I hope that things turn around so you can both have a better week together.
ReplyDeleteYES, YES, YES. I am having the same kind of week. We're not married yet, but we have been living together for about 3 years, and this week has just been so frustrating to me. I have been trying so hard to keep it together, and we have really been snapping at each other the last two days. So your post really speaks to me, especially since you so eloquently expressed some of the exact feelings I've been experiencing.
ReplyDeleteI hope that this week is better for you guys and that you get a chance to snag some "me" time! Hang in there!!!
This is exactly how I feel sometimes. B and I are very similar but when it comes to communication, I want to blab and he wants to hold back. This made for a very challenging year abroad, especially since we had no family or close friends there. Hopefully things get easier for you!
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